We’ve all heard the saying…
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. What often happens in relationships is we fall in to routines and sometimes we can start to live in each others pockets. We can feel like once we have become really close to someone that we have to explain why we just want a little space. We might worry that the other will start thinking there is a problem or they’ve done something wrong.
I think some time apart is very healthy in relationships no matter how far into it you are. It reminds us all that we were once single and that we are not completely dependent on each other. It gives us that time alone to think for ourselves and not have to constantly consider someone else which is lovely to do when you’re in a relationship but sometimes it’s nice just to have to think about yourself.
Having some space apart will also encourage your partner to start doing things they enjoy without you. This is not so you live separate lives but it’s just to keep things interesting. If you do the same things with the same person all of the time, things do become boring and predictable. You eventually run out of things to talk about because you’ve both been there and done it – together!
I think the more we make a bit of space a natural thing in relationships the more we allow each other to have some time alone and that helps build desire, sexually and emotionally.
Remember that when something is always available the truth is that is loses its appeal. Take a bit of time out every once in a while. It may be a day, a night a weekend depending on where your relationship is. But a bit of space will do wonders for your relationship and it is a natural and healthy thing to do. So for anyone who was wondering if the saying is really true the answer is yes – absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Lots of love