Body Confidence after giving birth
Body confidence is something the majority of people on the planet probably wishes they had a bit more of. The saying ‘you never know what you’ve got until it’s gone’ is so true isn’t it? Especially when you’re standing in-front of the mirror after having a baby. Body confidence is a massive issue for millions of women around the world but even more so for new mums and mums to be. It’s tricky because you never really know what to expect. We all hear the horror stories about the devastating affects pregnancy and childbirth can have on our bodies but obviously but every woman is different and some women have an even better body after!
The scary thing that I think most women realise, usually about 6 months into the pregnancy when their belly is getting worryingly big is that there’s no going back. You can’t really imagine what your body is going to look after childbirth and all you can do is deal with it, however bad it may be.
Sagging breasts, stretch marks, varicose veins (to name a few) can really knock your body confidence. Sadly, It seems that it’s only then that most women realise and appreciate how pert and un-stretched they were before. Here are some tips to help you feel confident again and learn to re-love yourself and your new motherly body.
- Try to accept that your body has changed by constantly reminding yourself why. You had the incredible experience of conceiving and carrying the most precious little person in the world to you. That is such a gift. Think of all the women that long for their own child but their body won’t allow them to, how devastating it must be.
- Be pro-active. Yes we put on weight when we are pregnant but in truth we only need an extra 200 calories a day. That is the equivalent of 2 pieces of toast (without butter!) If you have over indulged because the joy of not having to explain your over eating or the wonderful feeling of not having to suck in your belly for 9 months then now is the time to do something about it. Go for long walks, go swimming and if you can get to do some time on your own, join a yoga or fitness class. It will get you socialising with other adults and help you get fit and healthy at the same time.
- Celebrate the fact that all mothers go through the same thing so at least we have each other to talk to about it. Try to associate yourself with positive, upbeat people that enjoy life rather than picking at negative or superficial issues. Magazines that constantly pick and dig at other women’s flaws are really unhelpful and subliminally train you to do the same to yourself as you begin to assume all people think like that. They don’t.
- If you do feel you have lost all your body confidence after giving birth make sure you talk to your partner about it rather than just shutting down. You may be surprised to find out that they may be even more attracted to you, as many men and women are. They also may be able to help you get your confidence back by eating healthily with you, working out together or offering to have the baby more so you can do a class.
Remember, you can be as sexy as you want to be but first you have to feel it. Train your mind to be kind to yourself as possible and make positive changes to help your body and mind get back to where it was before. You are now going through one of the most powerful and important experiences we women can go through in life – becoming a mother. Try to embrace and enjoy every part of it.
All my love