Rach, I need some advice – I fancy a married man!
I’m a single woman in my early 30’s and I totally fancy my boss who is nearly 20 years older than me. Also he’s a happily married man! Please help me.
Well it’s not uncommon Lauren but my first bit of advice is DO NOT ACT ON THIS! Men with authority, power and money can have a certain appeal to women as those things can symbolise leadership, strength, determination, discipline and a good life-style- all very attractive traits. Sometimes we can idealise someone’s life because that’s the kind of life we want for ourselves. But the bottom line is he is a married man. So as long as you don’t act on this urge then try not to beat yourself up for it. We all experience ‘crushes’ at some point (or even throughout) our lives.
The fact that he’s a married man may be part of the attraction too. Maybe you are looking for that commitment and stability in your own life. Acknowledging this can be a good thing as its helping you become clear about what it is you want. But going after someone else’s husband is definitely not a good idea.
I believe everyone that comes in to our lives is a teacher in one way or another. When you meet someone with good or bad traits they are helping you mould and sculpt the idea of what you want in your life. If that is the kind of person you want then you have to go and find you someone like that for yourself- who is available!
Cheating will never end with good results and breaking up a family over a crush is definitely going to have horrible consequences. Not to mention the detrimental affect it could have on your career. Believe that you can get anything you want in this world so if you are looking for a single, 50 year old business man then you go and find your prince!