I have basically been a geek all of my life. I was never popular at school, have never been trendy, never had lots of friends and never had any luck with women. In fact, all my life I have always been called a geek too. I’m an average height and quite skinny. I try to eat loads but never seem to put on weight. Have thought about going to the gym to bulk up a bit but I don’t have the confidence.
If I’m really honest I think I am quite funny. In a clever kind of way. But that never comes out when I’m in a woman’s company. Everything I say or do just makes me feel (and look) even more geeky. I work hard and have a good job which makes not having a girlfriend even more frustrating. Think of the guys (geeks) from the big bang theory. They are into comics, science, geometry, quantum physics and science fiction. Sums me up perfectly – a geek. I would love to meet a woman but don’t know how to speak to them. Please can you offer me some advice? I’m afraid I’m going to be alone forever.
First off – I personally love ‘geeks’! Honestly I do and there are plenty of other women out there that love geeks too. The best thing you can do to change this situation is start viewing yourself in a different way. You are calling yourself a geek and seeing that as a bad thing. Who says it’s a bad thing? The fact that you are into really interesting, exciting and important things makes you totally cool in my book! Half the population (if not more) have no clue about the things you know about, that makes you incredibly interesting to women that are also into the same things.
The truth is, with love and good relationships, everyone is looking for something different. Something special and important to them. Not everyone likes big, macho, model looking guys. In fact they actually repulse some women. There are plenty of women that are looking for a geek just like you.
I want you to start seeing yourself differently. Write a list of all your qualities and all the things you like about yourself. Be open, honest and don’t be too modest. No-one needs to see this list. But you need to know all of these things and really believe in them before anyone else will start to truly appreciate them. I can’t lie, some women are looking for superficial things in a man, like looks and bank balance but most are not. Many women want a man that is honest, loyal, intelligent, funny and treats them like a queen. You have the potential of all of those things and are willing to give them to a special lady. So be kind to yourself and start to build up your own inner confidence.
Next I want you to think about where your ideal woman will hang out. What science or comic conventions are there going on around the world? What lectures and talks about quantum physics are happening this year? Start to hang out and make connections at the places where your dream woman will hang out. You will start on a firm footing as you’ll have something in common with her before you’ve even started talking. Then when you do you can wow her with all of your knowledge and clever wit.
Last note – try to never put yourself down. This energy oozes out to the opposite sex. Be a bit cocky and confident. Women much prefer this approach, especially if it’s coming from someone that doesn’t have women dripping off their arm. It makes you look more interesting and intriguing. Once you have got the attention of a lucky lady feel free to get back in touch with me if you’re looking for some sweet, sexy or romantic ideas to really blow her off her feet.
Best of luck my geeky friend (remember GEEKS ROCK!)