This problem has been bothering me for years but I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. I know a lot of men have this same worry as I’ve read loads of forums online about it but I saw you do your talks at Erotica and I like the way you were so genuine and straight talking. So here goes – I’m worried about my penis size. Erect, my penis is only 4 ½ inches long. Is that really small? Women always talk about liking men with big penises so I feel a bit anxious about my size. Please clear this up for me. Thanks
Hiya, I get asked this question a lot and the honest answer is every woman is different and each like different sizes and shapes of penises. I have met women that don’t like their partner to be too big. It can be painful and can also makes it hard for her to perform oral sex on him. I’ve met other women that don’t like anything smaller than 8 inches. Some women like long and thin, others prefer short and thick. Everyone is different. The average penis size in the UK is between 5- 6 ½ inches erect so 4 ½ isn’t that far off average.
Whenever I talk to men about anxiety over their size, I always say that a benefit of having an ‘under average’ sized penis can actually help you to become a better lover. You may have to find other wonderful ways to please a woman which is just as satisfying as sex, with a big penis. Whereas men with large penises may never want to learn those things as they think their penis has it all (which all of us women know is not the case!).
The truth is, a woman that truly loves you will love everything about you. The connection two people have and the sexual chemistry between them is far more important than the size of their anatomy. Be confident in yourself and always ask your partner what she likes and what feels good. Always push yourself to learn new things sexually and practice different ways to please each other without using the obvious body parts. That’s what makes sex exciting, innovative and addictive.
Something else that you may be interested in having a look at are penis extenders. They are sex toys, usually made with a real feel or jelly rubber types of material that add length and girth to your penis. They do take the sensitivity away from you but they are great for giving your partner some added pleasure and giving you and ego boost when you look down at your ‘new’ massive manhood. I recommend using one to bring your partner to climax and then removing it when it’s your turn to let go. Check out my review of the nature skin lust sleeve here.
I hope that has helped.