My Man’s Got Stinky Bits
I love my boyfriend so much but I have a problem. He’s a bit stinky down below. He’s a builder and gets really sweaty. It’s really putting me off but I don’t know how to tell him without hurting his feelings or embarrassing him.
Katie, Croydon London
Katie I do feel for you and if we’re all honest, I’m sure most of us can relate to your situation in some way. So thanks for getting in touch to highlight this issue. Having a stinky experience is enough to put anyone off. I am however a strong believer in the philosophy – honesty is the best policy. Many people are completely unaware of their own body odour even if they seem obvious to those around them. Sometimes it just takes someone to let them know and then they can then do something about it. Personally, I would much prefer the people that love me told me something I may not want to hear rather than letting me go around completely oblivious to it.
The problem here is, if you don’t tell him you will either have to hold your nose when being intimate with him (not very sexy or practical) or even worse you will just go off him (and sex) completely. The great news is this is an issue that will be easily fixed. I have three suggestions of how you can approach this stinky situation.
The sexy/ jokey approach
When he comes back from work one day be ready and waiting to jump his bones (looking sexy and enticing will help this approach). Tell him straight away that you can’t wait to feel him inside you. When he drops his jacket/ bag overwhelmed with excitement, stop him and say something like ‘Uh Uh! Not until you’ve had a shower because I DO NOT want any sweaty balls in my face!’ (Trades men aren’t usually offended by this raw, cheeky banter)
A more serious approach
At a convenient time say calmly but confidently that you want to have more sex and that love going down on him but if he wants this too he’s going to have to shower properly when he gets in from work. Tell him that you can smell and taste sweaty/ stinky builder and it’s putting you off sex. Remind him at the end that the reason you’re bringing it up is because you want more sex. What a great incentive for him. Try not to over-think his reaction. He may be overjoyed at the fact that you want more sex.
The practical approach
Have a bath prepared for him when he gets in from work. You could be the sexy maid or nurse that wants to soap him up and rub him down. You could even get in there with him. There is a product called Femfresh which is designed for women but men can use it to. It’s great for sensitive areas as it’s hypoallergenic, PHP balanced and dermatologically tested. Get some for yourself and say you want to try it on him. After washing him with it go down on him tell him much you enjoyed the blowjob because he was so clean.
I hope this has been helpful Katie. You’ve got a few options there to pick from. Whichever approach you chose be confident and try not to worry about how he’ll take it. It’s a waste of time. Keep your mind focused on having wonderful sex and play with your wonderful boyfriend that now smells delicious.
Good luck and let me know how it goes.