Oral Sex Dilemma
My girlfriend says that she loves oral sex. She also let it slip once that her ex was really good at it. I haven’t got a clue what I’m doing and feel really embarrassed about it. What should I do?
Paul from Dover
Thanks for getting in touch. Firstly please understand that you are not alone on this. This is exactly why I do what I do. As adults we get to a certain age and we’re just expected to know what to do. If you haven’t been shown, or taught or you don’t have a partner that you can practice and experiment with then how are you supposed to know? You have a penis, not a vagina so it is naturally confusing for you to know how to please one.
That’s exactly what I’m here to help you with. I am going to be doing an online workshop about how to give a woman amazing oral sex. Make sure you sign up to my page so that you know exactly when that workshop goes live. We also cover oral sex techniques in my Sexual Success Master Classes for men where I practically show you some fantastic techniques. If you’re interested in that, click on the Master Class tab to read more there or fill out the form to request an info pack.
If I don’t see you at a Master Class or online workshop though, the advice I can give you now is:
1. You have to get down there and start practicing. Nobody gets good at anything unless they practice. Oral sex is no different. Make a conscious effort to practice as much as you can with the mind-set of you won’t stop trying until you have mastered the way your girlfriend likes it. I’m sure she’ll be impressed by your determination.
2. Speak to your girlfriend about it. She will be your best teacher. No one knows how she likes it better than she does. Explain that you want to satisfy her and you’d like her direct you on how she likes it. Hopefully she’ll be impressed that you are open to learn. It’s far better to do that than to either perform oral sex being unsure if she’s really enjoying it or avoiding it altogether as you don’t want her to find out that you’re not sure of what you’re doing.
3. Don’t be afraid of making ‘mistakes’. There are no mistakes in sex! There are only ways of finding out what you do and don’t like. When you take that pressure off yourself of ‘getting it wrong’ you will find you are much more open to experiment and explore without hesitation or worry. Everything will feel more light hearted and fun, the way it was intended.
I hope this has been helpful Paul. Best of luck with everything. Let me know how it goes.