Why people are most likely to cheat in January
I read a study recently that claimed people are most likely to cheat on a partner in January. So I don’t want to bring any of you down but I just wanted to explore this idea, why January!? And if you were thinking about cheating on a partner I’ll give you my top tips on how to prevent yourself from doing it!
Some people love the New Year. It’s a chance to forget all the things they messed up, didn’t do or any bad experiences they had the previous year. They can start fresh and feel positive about doing things differently. While others dislike the new year because it’s a reminder of all the things they messed up, didn’t do and the potential bad experiences that they could experience this year. As we all know, time flies and for some the New Year can represent another year gone and another year ahead, of feeling unfulfilled.
This is especially apparent in relationships. Why? Because so many people settle for a person or a relationship that isn’t making them happy. Whether it be because of low self-esteem, kids, legal disputes, property, guilt – the list goes on.
Many people feel trapped in their relationship unable to do anything about it. They long for that rush of excitement and the passion they had in the early days of their own relationship and for whatever reason they are not getting it now. So they look to someone else to give it to them rather than addressing the problem at home. The truth is that excitement and passion that they could potentially get from someone else is short lived. The consequences of cheating and the guilt that can come with it is far more detrimental, not just to their relationship and family members (if you have kids) but to themselves.
The most empowering thing for any person to achieve is to be true to themselves. Sometimes relationships aren’t meant to work and that’s ok. Sometimes we think we don’t want a relationship, leave it and then realise it was right for them and that’s ok too. Sometimes the struggle of making things work with someone you truly love is the test that you’re meant to go through to see if its right for both of you. But whichever way you look at it, cheating is not the way to solve anything.
If you are thinking of cheating here are my top tips to prevent yourself from doing it
- What are the things that are making you feel unsatisfied? List them so you are clear. Try talking to your partner and see if they feel the same as you. Focus on solutions rather than problems.
- Don’t encourage or engage anyone that is willing to support you cheating. They are not real friends or great potential partners as they are obviously don’t see cheating as a problem. If a person will cheat with or for you, please don’t think they won’t cheat on you later down the line.
- If there’s a problem at home – try to fix it. If you don’t want to fix it then have the courage to walk away. I’m not saying it will be easy but you are respecting yourself and respecting the other person by not leading them on thinking you are in this relationship the same way they are.
- Only you can decide if something is right for you. If you are not getting what you want out of your relationship, why are you in it? You can get what you want and deserve off a partner but to do that you’ll have to be honest with yourself and not settle for something that isn’t making you happy.
- Cheating will never make you feel good long term. The readson for this is because you are hiding from the truth – your relationship isn’t making you happy. The sneaking around may feel exciting now but that feeling won’t last for ever. Dig deep and resolve the issues within yourself about what you really want.