Let’s talk about sex! (Hurrah!) – Quickies Vs Sex Sessions
Which do you prefer? A good, old fashioned quickie that you squeeze into the adverts of your favourite TV show? Or a long and steady sex session where both of you feel too weak to even get up afterwards?
Let’s discuss the pros and cons of each shall we.
Quickies can be fab for everyone but especially for people with busy schedules and limited time. They are great to get a quick bit of satisfaction (at any time of day) even if you haven’t got the time or energy to really give it your all. Quickies are also a brilliant way to tease each other, especially if you both stop before you orgasm. It just leaves you desperate for more. Women do tend to get fed up with quickies IF it’s the only thing on offer. It’s a well-known fact that women take longer to get aroused than men. So a quickie may just get her started and then before she knows it – it’s all over. Only ever having quickie sex can get very frustrating for women. Sex toys like a good clit stimulator can help women climax quicker and easier during a quickie. On the other hand quickies are great for men. A quick bit of full on penetration leading to a powerful orgasm can really help relieve stress, anxiety and put him in a wonderful frame of mind.
Long sex sessions are wonderful for everyone but they are a little harder to ‘achieve’. Unfortunately in many cases the further into a relationship the less time is made for a long and satisfying sex sessions. This can happen for a number of reasons but part of my mission is to encourage and inspire people to spice up their relationships. That’s why teaching practical sexual techniques, confidence building skills and better communication within relationships is so important to me. Women tend to love long sex sessions because it’s not just a wham bam thank you mam type of situation. The time has to be spent kissing, caressing and working each other up to orgasm, which in turn makes the climax far more powerful. I’m not suggesting for a minute that men don’t like long sex sessions but there is a lot more work and effort involved and let’s be honest, a lot more pressure for them and their manhood to ‘perform’ for a long period of time.
My conclusion is both are just as good as each other but for different reasons. It’s all about balance. If you are doing one ‘style’ far more than the other then it will inevitably become less enjoyable. I always recommend mixing up the styles of sex. Try to vary how when you have your sex sessions. Routine sex is a pit you do not want to fall into. Obviously long sex sessions may need some preparation. IE making the time, setting the scene, being in the right mood/ frame of mind. So try to plot some time out for them in a diary so you both know you have something to look forward to. Once you know that you’re going to get that time to fully indulge and spoil each other rotten with love and affection (and filth of course) quickies in between will be the perfect filler between your long sex sessions.
Sex is sex and will feel amazing doing it with the person you love no matter what ‘style’ you do it in. Just remember to change it up so you don’t get stuck in a rut of doing the same thing all the time.
All my love,